Friendship and love are such important themes in our lives, and that's why we want to dedicate this blog post to nurturing mindful, deep relationships and offer you a cacao ritual for yourself and your loved ones. When we truly see each other, listen, and meet with open hearts, a space arises in which we feel connected and seen. Mindful relationships remind us of who we truly are - beyond masks, roles, and expectations. They nourish our soul, offer support in challenging times, and bring joy in sharing life.
"In the end, it is always
the connections with others,
that give life its value."
Wilhelm von Humboldt
Deep and genuine connections are a luxury
The older I get, the more I care about the quality of my friendships rather than the quantity. Perhaps you know this feeling too? When you're young, you have lots of friends and acquaintances to go out with. Over time, it becomes harder to find people who are truly on the same wavelength. Maybe time becomes more limited, or the longing for deeper connections grows.
The latter, I find personally very beautiful. In a time when everything moves so fast, building deep connections can become a kind of luxury. Depth arises in many different ways. You may have known someone for years and shared many experiences together. But it can also happen that you meet someone and instantly “click.” There’s no better or worse here. What I believe is essential for a deep friendship or even romantic relationship is genuine interest in the other person – seeing them as they really are in that moment and being open to one another. The most important relationship always begins within ourselves so that we can build even more mindful and loving relationships with others.
These journaling questions deepen your heart-level connections
The following journaling questions strengthen the relationship with yourself and help you gain clarity about your relationships with others:
✦ How do I want to feel in my life? What is important to me in my relationship with myself and others? (e.g., clarity or safety)
✦ To what extent are these needs currently fulfilled in my relationship with myself and others? What can I do to bring them more into my life again?
✦ Which people do me good and give me energy – and why?
✦ Which people are not good for me and drain my energy – and why?
How Ritual Cacao helps you feel yourself and others more deeply
This is where cacao medicine comes into play, which supports exactly that: Ritual Cacao brings you into deeper connection with yourself and your heart. And when you're more connected to yourself, you can open up more deeply to others. You begin to truly see the other person with your heart – as they are, not as you wish they were. Why this is so, you can also read in our article “Can You Learn Empathy?”
We often hear from people:"When I drank cacao together with my mother or sister, suddenly a space opened up for a depth we had never experienced before."
Deep relationships begin with an open heart
Cacao has this wonderful effect on us. At the same time, we need to understand that it also takes our own openness to allow authentic and deep connections. Past wounds can make us doubtful of others, and we may want to close off. But in doing so, we miss out on one of the most beautiful things in the world. And as W. v. Humboldt said: isn't it precisely those connections with people that give our lives their value?
We invite you to enter into honest, loving contact again and again and to feel how your quality of life rises as a result. And to support that, here’s a cacao ritual you can do with someone close to your heart. It doesn’t matter whether it’s your partner, your friend, your sister – it’s about feeling more connected to yourself and experiencing true connection.
A friendship & Love Cacao Ritual with Your Loved One
Prepare two cups of Ritual Cacao * and go with your loved one to a beautiful place.
Close your eyes and feel into your heart. Invite your loved one to do the same. What is your wish or intention for today’s ritual? Share your wishes and speak them out loud into the cacao.
Exchange your cups and feel again into your hearts. Ask yourself: What do I wish for the other person? Speak this into the cacao and then exchange the cups again.
Drink your cacao with your eyes closed and connect with your wishes and intentions.
Open your eyes and look at each other. Make it your intention to stay fully present with yourself. Use the other person’s eyes as a mirror to feel yourself more deeply. Then close your eyes again.
Before opening your eyes again, bring your full attention into your heart and set the intention to see the other person from your heart.
Open your eyes and share one sentence or word that arises when you look at the other.
Finish your cacao and give each person 2–3 minutes to share whatever is on their heart or mind. Let the other speak without interrupting.
Close the ritual by exchanging a hug or another gesture of connection.
I sincerely wish you much joy with this small ritual and deeply appreciate our connection. It’s so beautiful that you are here!
* Here we have a recipe & tips for you on how to prepare your cacao.
